etta-kit

nelly1508
Jul 31, 2016
10 min read

tap here .. here ..

Gallery two

It requires skill and practice to put other people at ease. Thomas Barwick/Stone/Getty Images

By Debby Mayne

Etiquette Expert

Updated April 30, 2016.

Have you ever watched people squirm when they're in an uncomfortable or awkward situation? Would you like to help put them at ease?

Being a gracious person requires knowing good manners and having the ability to put other people at ease. Although some people seem to have been born with this knack, it can be learned. Once you learn, practice, and develop this skill, you'll be amazed by how people flock to you.

Be Gracious

The first step in putting others at ease is to be gracious and kind to everyone. Learn basic manners and use them in all situations, whether you are at a formal get-together or hanging out with friends.

Everyday manners tips:

Good Manners for All Occasions – Your friends and coworkers will see that you know how to act in all situations, and they're probably going to follow your lead.
8 Frequently Asked Questions About Etiquette – Read the answers to some of the most common concerns people have about manners.
Social Etiquette Tips – These guidelines apply when you're hanging out with friends and while you're having lunch with coworkers.

CONTINUE READING BELOW OUR VIDEO

Wake Up To Younger Looking Eyes

0:00

2:48

Have Empathy

When you're with other people, try not to think about your own feelings so much. If you turn the attention to others, they will be drawn to you because you care. Ask questions about them and listen to their answers. Do something nice for someone else without expecting something in return.

Ways to show that you care:

Acts of Kindness – Do something special for the people in your life and make it specific to each one's needs.
Acknowledge Others – Give credit to your friends, family members, and coworkers for a job well done. Never take credit for something you didn't do.
Conversation Etiquette – Engage in conversation that interests the people you are with. If you sense that they have become disengaged, switch topics to something that they care about. Always listen to what the other person says without thinking about what you want to say next.

Show Confidence

A confident person is generally much easier to be around than someone who is uncomfortable in her own skin. Be the person who has direction and the self-assuredness to be at ease in all settings. If you've had a rough day, try not to burden everyone else with the details.

There is nothing wrong with venting occasionally, but be careful not to do it too often. Doing so will make people very uncomfortable, and they'll start backing away to find more positivity. You don't want to become that person who is a chronic complainer.

Be Aware

Know what is going on around you. This includes everything from noticing the person who is standing alone to knowing the latest current events.

Ways to show awareness:

Approach someone who is standing alone, shake her hand, and ask appropriate questions about her.
Read the newspaper or listen to the news regularly so you can carry on a decent conversationabout what is going on in the world. It is okay to state your opinion, but always listen to opposing views with respect.
Pay attention to body language and know when it's time to change the subject or end the conversation.

Be Engaged

Give the other person your total attention. Avoid periodic glances over their shoulder, or they will think you're looking for an escape. The person you are speaking to at any given time should feel as though he is the most important person in the room. Make eye contact, smile when appropriate, and nod to show that you are listening.

Use Humor

Allow yourself to relax and enjoy a good laugh periodically. It shows that you are a happy person, and that will pull people toward you. Don't take every little comment too seriously, including those that pertain to you. What you perceive as negative may actually be positive to others. Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes.

10 Mistakes Well Mannered People Don't Make
What Can Teenagers Do to Have a Social Advantage?
Importance of Good Manners
What Defines Ladylike Behavior?

Etiquette Mistakes Not to Make

Ads

Proper Business Etiquette
Email Etiquette
Phone Etiquette Training
Dinner Etiquette
Dining Etiquette
Table Etiquette for Kids

Woman gesturing during a business meeting. Sam Edwards/Getty Images

By Debby Mayne

Etiquette Expert

Updated May 08, 2015.

Do you have a friend who never embarrasses you when you're together? Have you ever seen someone who appeared refined in all situations? Is there someone you always look to when you're not sure which fork to use?

The answers to all of the questions above will tell you the names of people who rarely make etiquette mistakes. They know the rules, and they've practiced them enough to follow them without too much thought.

This can be you too. Even if you don't currently know all of the etiquette rules, you can still learn and practice them until they become second nature. Eventually, your friends and acquaintances will look to you for the proper way to act.

Etiquette mistakes you should stop making:

Chronic cell phone use – If you're one of those people who constantly chats, texts, and stares at your cell phone, regardless of where you are or who you are with, stop. It's rude. Be where you physically are at the moment and give those around you your full attention. If your phone rings, ignore it until you're in a more private setting. Or better yet, turn it off before you're with others. When a text comes in, resist the urge to respond. It can wait.

CONTINUE READING BELOW OUR VIDEO

Jean Styles You Can Wear All Year Around

0:00

2:36

Constantly interrupt – Do you always have to make your opinion known? Do you always have to have the last word? If you constantly interrupt others, you'll wind up doing all of the talking, and no one will want to be around you. Let other people finish what they have to say before you speak, and they will appreciate the fact that you care about what they have to say.
Forget to introduce – When an old friend approaches you while you're with a new friend or relative, introduce them before you break into conversation. If you forgot one of their names, apologize for your memory lapse and ask for it.
Ignore party manners – Whether it's a formal dinner party or a casual get-together to watch asporting event on TV, don't forget to follow through with proper party etiquette. The first thing to do is RSVP so the host knows who will be in attendance. Arrive on time for a dinner party or close to the designated time for any other type of gathering, and bring a host or hostess gift. Engage in appropriate conversation for the event. Pay attention to the host's body language and leave before he has to throw you out. Later, send a nice thank you note letting him know how much you appreciate his hospitality.
Ask nosy questions – There are certain things you should never ask others, particularly if you barely know them. If the person wants you to know the answers, she will eventually tell you after you've established and developed a relationship. Asking rude questions will put her on the spot and make her very uncomfortable, possibly even preventing her from wanting to be around you again.
Ask for special treatment – Whether you are going to someone's dinner party or just hanging out with friends, don't expect to be treated in a special way that sets you apart from the others. Of course, if someone is preparing food, let him know of any allergies or religious restrictions you may have. Or if your friends are about to do something that you consider morally wrong, you should gracefully bow out.
Argue over a check – Any discussion of money and who will pay the bill at a restaurant should be handled before you go. Doing otherwise embarrasses those around you and puts the server in an awkward position. This is something that should be handled in a low-key manner that doesn't call attention to who is or isn't paying for the meal.
Be late – You should never be late for anything. Do thorough planning to make sure you arealways on time If you see that circumstances beyond your control are pulling you behind, contact the other person as early as possible. Remember that if you're late, someone has to wait for you. I'm sure she has other things she could be doing with her time that she'll never get back.
Be rude – When you are out and about, be aware of other people around you and be gracious. Smile, offer a friendly greeting, and hold doors for others who might be struggling with packages, small children, or a disability. Show kindness to servers in restaurants and clerks in stores. They work hard to help you, so show respect to them in return and tip them well.
Eat like a slob – Before you share a meal with others, learn some basic table manners. These rules aren't difficult to learn and follow, and they can make the difference between always having someone to go to lunch with or having to eat alone because you embarrass others.

Manners Mistakes That Can Make You Seem Rude
10 Etiquette Mistakes You Don't Know You're Making
What Can Teenagers Do to Have a Social Advantage?
10 Tips to Fake Good Manners

Social

A teenager’s social life is extremely important because fitting in with peers can make the difference between feeling confident and being one of those people who struggles to fit in. Learning proper etiquette gives teens the skills that will be useful at the moment as well as later in life.

Helpful social skills:

Conversation and Communication Etiquette – Teenagers need to learn hold interesting conversations on dates, at parties, and with friends.

CONTINUE READING BELOW OUR VIDEO

Top Etiquette Tips To Teach Your Child For School

0:00

2:20

Manners for Men and Ladies – Boys should act gentlemanly.
RSVP Etiquette – Following through with an RSVP request shows respect and enables the host to plan parties and events.
Restaurant Etiquette FAQs – When teenagers learn how to act in a restaurant, it comes more natural as they grow into adulthood.
Send Thank You Notes – Writing a thank you note only takes a few minutes and a little bit of effort, but it goes a long way in letting others know they are appreciated. Send thank you notes for gifts, after you’ve attended a party, or for anything someone has done for you.

Daily Living

Getting into the habit of following proper etiquette in his or her daily life will give the teenager the advantage of appearing more mature and trustworthy. Parents of friends are more likely to approve of their teens hanging out with someone who exhibits good manners. Most of it involves common sense, but it also requires knowing the basic etiquette rules.

Daily living etiquette:

Table Manners – Knowing and practicing proper table manners can give a teenager the confidence to enjoy a meal in a wide variety of settings.
How to Answer Rude Questions – Learn how to diffuse questions that nosy people tend to ask.
Be on Time – Showing respect for others by being on time will gain points for a teenager and prevent him or her from being the person who slows everyone down.
Be a Well Mannered Sports Spectator – Learning proper etiquette when watching sports can prevent awkward situations from escalating to something that can be even more uncomfortable or even dangerous.
Cell Phone Manners – Use proper manners when on your cell phone. Never chat long on the phone when you are with friends. That’s rude and makes people you are with uncomfortable.

Classroom and Job

Many of the etiquette rules for the workplace also apply to the classroom. There is a hierarchy, with the teacher playing the role of the boss and the students in the same position as employees. Learning proper behavior in the classroom will cross over into the workplace when the teenager is ready to get a job.

Behavior in the classroom and at work:

Personal Space – Follow the general principles of allowing everyone their personal space to prevent making anyone uncomfortable.
Email Etiquette – When you email someone, whether it is a teacher, fellow student, or someone you work with, respect their time and sensibilities by exhibiting good manners through electronic communication.
At School – Being confident at school starts with knowing what is expected as well as what is socially acceptable.
Acknowledging Others – Never take credit for someone else’s work. Not only is it rude, it makes you appear to not be smart enough to come up with ideas of your own. By the same token, when someone receives an award, be the first to offer congratulations. It shows that you are a team player and will make others respect you even more in the classroom and on the job.
Dress Appropriately – Follow the school and work dress code. Doing otherwise can be distracting and get you into all kinds of trouble.
Job Interview Etiquette – Follow general etiquette tips when interviewing for a job. This will make you stand out as a viable candidate and have the employer looking at you with respect.
Respect Coworkers and Fellow Students – Follow proper etiquette in relationships with your coworkers and friends at school. You are more likely to get good grades, raises, promotions, and letters of recommendations if you show good manners to people you work with.

Etiquette Tips for All Occasions
Real Men Have Good Manners
10 Mistakes Well Mannered People Don't Make
How to Be Socially Acceptable in All Situations

SMALL BRAND

etta-kit

Be Gracious

Have Empathy

Show Confidence

Be Aware

Be Engaged

Use Humor

Etiquette Mistakes Not to Make

Social

Daily Living

Classroom and Job

Comments

Featured Posts

This is the title of your first image post

Recent Posts

local grown only

control vs freedom

MK-Ultra/Monarch Explained

EEM-energy extraction MATrix

ax4value all debts

Maritime Admiralty Law

money babylon

know thyself milk

Finding your treasury

Legal b4 marshal

Search By Tags

Follow Us